5 Things to Never Say to a Naked Woman

5 Things to Never Say to a Naked

Woman

When the sex is good, it speaks for itself. When it's not, 

you have to use actual words. 

Just choose them carefully or she may cut you off for good

Love can be messy—especially the sex part. But to straighten things out, sometimes you have to start a difficult conversation. And that's fine, if you do it with tact. "You have to develop the vocabulary to talk about sensitive issues," says Arlene Goldman, Ph.D., a sex therapist based in Philadelphia. "It will help you please your partner." In fact, a recent study published in the Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy found that communication is the most critical factor in a couple's success—it's even more significant than the sex itself. That's why you should pause before you open your big mouth and say something you'll regret. We talked to the experts to find out how you can ace the talks you'd rather avoid and still come out on top (or bottom—whichever you prefer). 

THAT ORGASM SEEMED AS PHONY AS CHEEZ WHIZ.

Don't accuse her, says Eli Finkel, Ph.D., a professor of social psychology at Northwestern University. Instead, have that talk away from the bedroom. When the topic comes up naturally, say, "You don't ever need to fake orgasms with me. I want our relationship to be totally honest." You'll foster mutual respect—in and out of the sack. 

NOT NOW, THANKS. I'D RATHER JUST READ MY BOOK.

You're allowed to be tired, but make sure she knows you're surprised too. Try, "I can't believe I'm saying this, but I'm too exhausted," says Finkel. Then ask for a rain check—say, for the morning—and tell her you'll do anything she wants. "Reassuring her is important," Goldman says. If she knows you're still interested, she'll give you a pass.

THERE'S SOMETHING REALLY WEIRD I WANT TO TRY WITH YOU.

Congrats—now she's leery. "If you say, 'I know this is weird, but. . .' your partner is bound to feel conflicted," Goldman says. A smarter way in: "I'm curious about bondage. What do you think?" By starting a conversation instead of forcing her to say yes or no, you give her time to think. She'll see that you view the act as a way to connect, not control. 

I'LL ENJOY THE SEX MORE AFTER YOU TAKE AN STD TEST.

The message she hears: "I suspect you have an STD." That's not exactly a turn-on. So flip the script: Tell her you want to get tested for her sake, and ask if she'd be willing to do it with you. If you frame the suggestion as something the two of you can do together, says Goldman, then she won't feel accused. 

IS THAT SUPPOSED TO FEEL GOOD? I DON'T LIKE IT.

Say this, and you'll look like an ass. Instead, show that you're eager to improve too, says Goldman. Ask, "What do you want more of or less of in bed?" You'll learn something about your own game, and when it's your turn to share, she'll be all ears. One trick: Sandwich the complaint between two compliments, and it will go down even easier. 

7 Signs Your Semen Is Healthy and Strong

7 Signs Your Semen Is Healthy and Strong

 

If you exercise, eat fish, and properly pack your leftovers, your 

sperm is already in great shape

Are your swimmers paddling up to par? There’s no easy way to gauge the quality of your semen just by looking at it, so you’ll need to schedule an appointment with your doc to find out for sure.

But while you wait, here are scientific signs that suggest you have strong sperm. How many can you cross off?

YOU SCULPT A LEAN MIDSECTION

Actually, you don’t even have to boast a six-pack—as long as you don’t have a gut, your semen is probably in tip-top shape.

Researchers from the Netherlands found that men with a waist circumference of 40 inches or greater had lower sperm concentrations and counts of normal-moving sperm than guys with a more whittled waist

The researchers aren’t exactly sure why a spare tire is bad for your swimmers. But they believe carrying too much weight—especially around your midsection—may interfere with the release of sex hormones, as well as the production and development of sperm.

YOU DON’T LOOK LIKE DON DRAPER

Good news, average-looking guys! Having a masculine mug might actually hurt you down below the belt, according to a new study.

Spanish and Finnish researchers recently discovered that men who had faces that were rated as manly—i.e. wider and broader—tended to have poorer semen quality than more feminine-faced guys.

One possible reason: a theoretical explanation called the “tradeoff hypothesis.” Simply put, men have a fixed amount of energy available to devote to reproductive resources. And that energy must be distributed to a number of different components.

“So, if a male consumes more resources on semen production, he may have fewer resources available for developing attractive secondary sexual traits, like facial masculinity,” says study author Jukka Kekäläinen, Ph.D.

YOU’RE A FISH MAN

Quick, think of your favorite go-to protein: is it red, salty, and processed? If so, your semen might be paying the price.

Harvard University researchers found that men who ate the most processed meat had significantly lower counts of normal-shaped sperm compared to those who consumed the lowest.

Fish, on the other hand, seemed to have a protective effect. Guys who ate the most fish—especially dark-meat kinds like salmon and tuna—had a 65 percent greater sperm concentration than those who ate the least.

Credit fish’s omega-3s, since long-chain polyunsaturated fatty acids play a part in sperm production, the researchers say. So if you’re looking to strengthen your swimmers, sub out your pepperoni topping for some anchovies.

 YOU SCORN THE TIGHTY WHITIES

Here’s another reason briefs might feel a bit on the constricting side: they could be suffocating your sperm, too.

A 2012 study from the U.K. found that men who wore boxer shorts instead of tight-fitting underwear were 24 percent less likely to have a low-motile sperm count. Motility, or how sperm swims, is important, because sluggish sperm can have difficulty reaching the egg to successfully fertilize it.

“Loose-fitting underwear may result in lower scrotal temperatures compared to tight-fitting underwear, hence an improvement in semen quality,” says study author Andrew Povey, Ph.D. There’s also evidence that elevated testicular temperatures may hinder sperm production, he says. So if you want to be on the safe side, let your junk breathe.

YOU HIT THE GYM

Researchers from Harvard found that men who got their blood pumping in moderate to vigorous exercise 15 hours or more a week had a sperm concentration that was 73 percent higher than guys who didn’t work out at that intensity at all.

Not only does exercise help tamp down your weight—which can affect reproductive health—but it may also increase the expression of antioxidants throughout your body, the researchers believe. So regular gym sessions could actually prevent free radicals from damaging sperm cells.

And once you get back from breaking a sweat, resist the urge to flop down on the couch and go channel surfing. The researchers also found that guys who watched TV more than 20 hours a week had a sperm concentration that was 44 percent lower than those who kept the boob tube off.

YOU SPEAK IN FALSETTO

Okay, maybe not quite that shrill—just not a low, throaty growl. Men with those kinds of voices tend to have worse-off sperm, according to a University of Western Australian study.

Researchers found that while women did rate the low-pitched voices as more masculine and attractive, those husky-voiced men had lower concentrations of sperm in their ejaculate.

Testosterone levels may be one possible explanation for this, according to study author Leigh Simmons, Ph.D. Testosterone is associated with more masculine facial features and lower voices, but too much of it might actually suppress sperm production.

YOU DON’T NUKE YOUR LEFTOVERS IN PLASTIC

Zapping last night’s lasagna in a Tupperware container is easy, but it might be wreaking havoc on your sperm.

You can thank bisphenol-A (BPA), a chemical that can leach from plastics into your food when heated—and then into you.

Researchers from Denmark found than men who had the highest levels of BPA in their urine had a significantly lower percentage of motile sperm than those who had the lowest levels.

The scientists aren’t exactly sure what’s behind the semen squeeze, but they think the BPA might affect the estrogen and androgen activity in the epididymis in the testicles. And this, they believe, can hinder the normal development of sperm.

So before you nuke your lunch, take the 5 seconds to transfer it from a plastic container to a glass one.

What to Do When She Asks You How Many Women You’ve Slept With

What to Do When 

She Asks 

You How 

Many Women 

You’ve

 Slept With

Should you fib? Hide under the table? Experts explain how to navigate the dicey get-to-know-you conversation

Could your sexual history make or break your relationship? That’s what a new (unscientific) survey conducted by Superdrug Online Doctor, an online pharmacy in the UK, suggests. 

In the survey of more than 2,000 Europeans and Americans, 30 percent of the respondents said they’d be at least somewhat likely to end a relationship if they found out their partner had too many previous sexual partners.

What the heck is “too many”? 

On average, the women surveyed said they’d 

consider anyone who had slept with 15 or more

 partners as “too promiscuous.” Men set the limit at 14 partners. 

Plus, more than two thirds of the respondents

 said they thought that sexual histories should

 be discussed within the first four months of a relationship.

Clearly this all makes answering the sex 

number question a terrifying proposition if you’re in the double digits. 

Do you lie? Change the subject? Tell 

the truth and hope for the best?

We didn’t know either, so we asked two women with Ph.D.s.

DO YOU HAVE TO REVEAL YOUR SEX NUMBER?

Surprise! Both experts we polled

 give you permission to dodge the question entirely.

First of all, it could be too early to have such an

 intimate conversation, says Leslie Bell, Ph.D.,

 a psychotherapist based in Berkeley, California. 

Say someone asks you about your sexual history 

on the third date, for example, and you don’t feel 

comfortable delving into the ex files yet. That’s reasonable, Bell says. 

Just tell your date: “I’d love to get to that point,

 but I’d like to get to know you a little better before we talk about that.”

Even down the road, though, there’s really no

 reason you should have to disclose your number, says sex 

researcher Kristen Mark, Ph. D., the director of the

 Sexual Health Promotion Lab at the University of Kentucky, 

Her reasoning: What’s the point of sharing that information?

 That number of women you slept with in the

 past doesn’t usually have anything to do with

 the relationship you’re currently in 

(as long as you use protection and get tested for STIs).

So if you don’t want to answer,

 say: “Look, I’m sorry I’m not willing to share

 this information, 

but I don’t see how it’s relevant to our relationship,” says Mark.

If your partner seems annoyed by that, 

don’t get defensive. Just calmly ask her why

 she wants to know in the first place, 

Mark says. Try: “How do you see this affecting our relationship?” 

Then you can have a more productive 

conversation about what you both 

value in a relationship. Maybe she’s 

actually more concerned about fidelity, for example. 

Most likely, what she wants 

most in a partner has nothing to do with the

 exact number of notches on your bedpost.

IS IT OK TO FIB ABOUT YOUR SEX NUMBER?

If you do decide to tell your partner 

about your past, just be honest, Mark and Bell both advise.

Even if you don’t think fibbing

 about it is a big deal, the truth will

 probably come to the surface eventually

 if you stay together, Bell says. And then you’ll be

 caught in a lie, which could hurt her trust in you.

If you’re worried that your number is going to

 seem high, prep a little speech in advance in case she raises her eyebrows. 

Explain how you got to that number and 

what those different periods in your life

 meant to you, says Bell. For example, 

you might have thought sleeping around

 in college was fun, but now you’re ready to settle down. 

Or maybe you still want to sleep with lots of

 different people—in which case, she deserves 

to know that about you anyway. 

Regardless, your exact number of sexual 

partners is just one detail in your history, 

Mark says. It’s part of who you are, but 

obviously it’s not the whole story. If she

 lets it make or break your relationship, 

then maybe you and her weren’t compatible in the first place. 

Things every guy should keep at his desk

Sure, you have the requisite pens, pads, notebooks, and folders at your desk. You probably think that means you're all set.

There are 12 things that should be in or around every man's desk that we seldom think of until we need them. Be prepared for whatever happens during work — and after — with these essentials.

A blazer to dress up office-casual attire when needed.

Club Monaco

Even if the dress code at your office doesn't require one, keep a blazer at your desk at all times. A surprise client meeting or TV appearance can rattle the unprepared.

Make sure you can at least appear ready to take on the challenge.

An extra pair of shoes.

Jack Erwin

They don't need to be fancy. They just need to provide a Plan B in case you step in something or get caught in a rainstorm.

An extra pair of socks.

Shutterstock

Speaking of a downpour, a dry pair of socks is the difference between an uncomfortable morning and an uncomfortable day.

While you're at it, stick a pair of underwear in your desk, too. You never know.

A comfortable pair of headphones.

Chris Hondros

Headphones are an absolute must in shared workspaces, but we recommend them for everyone. Listening to music at work can actually make you more productive.

An emergency stick of deodorant.

Getty/Brad Barket

Whether you forgot to apply it or just need to freshen up, a stick of deodorant is indispensable. It's one of the most important items every guy should keep in his desk

A sturdy umbrella.

Jeff J Mitchell 

It wasn't raining this morning — but it definitely is now. Good thing you thought ahead and have your trusty umbrella ready to go under your desk.

An extra phone charger.

Will Wei/Business Insider

When you've been on one call after another, there's no more clutch desk accessory than a phone charger exactly when you need it.

Disposable toothbrushes.

Amazon.com

Fresh breath is important at all times, but especially when you're meeting a date after work. These go-anywhere toothbrushes are extremely useful in a pinch. They even double as toothpicks.

Chewing gum.

Amazon.com

No time to brush? Pop a quick stick of gum. Just don't go to town on it if you work in an open office. Your co-workers don't want to hear that.

Lose Arm Fat At Home

Arm fat is caused by the accumulation of excess fat in the area of the arms, and it represents an unpleasant issue, especially for women.

Moreover, even though sometimes fat can be easily burnt with regular exercise and a healthy diet, the fat on the arms is incredibly stubborn, and its removal is extremely difficult.

Flabby arms are often a result of aging, as, after the second decade of life, the body stored fat on certain body parts, and the lean muscle mass is gradually reduced. Actually, fatty tissues overweight lean muscles, and arm fat is a common aesthetic issue.

This problem may also result from poor metabolism as it is slowed down with age, and the system burns fewer calories. The increased accumulation of fat in the body is caused by lack of exercise and physical inactivity as well.

Hence, if you are one of the millions with flabby arms and simply hate their appearance, you will be happy after reading this article as we will suggest several simple, but extremely effective exercises that will help you burn the fat on the arms, and eventually get the toned arms you dreamed about your entire life!

Turkey coup attempt: Thousands of police officers suspended

Turkish officials say that nearly 8,000 police officers have been suspended, reportedly on suspicion of having links to the failed coup attempt at the weekend.

Some 6,000 members of the judiciary and military, including generals, have been detained in connection with the coup.

President Recep Tayyip Erdogan vowed to purge state bodies of the "virus" that caused the revolt.

The EU's foreign policy chief says the rule of law in Turkey needs protection.

The Turkish government claims cleric Fethullah Gulen was behind the plot.

Mr Gulen lives in the United States and strongly denies any involvement

Eight Turkish military officers who fled to Greece by helicopter are appearing in court in the Greek border city of Alexandropouli charged with entering the country illegally.

President Erdogan told a crowd on Sunday that Turkey would consider reinstating the death penalty.

Capital punishment was abolished in 2004 as part of Turkey's bid to join the European Union. Nobody has been executed in the country since 1984.

The EU's foreign policy chief, Federica Mogherini, was speaking ahead of a meeting of EU foreign ministers and the US Secretary of State, John Kerry, in Brussels, at which the events in Turkey are likely to be high on the agenda.

She said there would be no excuse for any steps that would take Turkey away from the rule of law and that the foreign ministers would be sending a "strong message" on that.

Snipers kill five US police at protest

Snipers kill five US police at protest

Snipers kill four police officers during a protest in Dallas against police shootings of black men, with three suspects in custody and one cornered.

Related content

Five Dallas police officers have been killed and six wounded by sniper fire during protests against the shooting of black men by police, authorities say.

Police are in a standoff with one armed man in a garage. Three other people have been detained.

Gunfire broke out at around 20:45 local time on Thursday (01:45 GMT Friday) as demonstrators marched through the city.

The protests were sparked by the deaths of Philando Castile in Minnesota and Alton Sterling in Louisiana.

Dallas Police Chief David Brown said officers remained in a stand-off with one armed man at a garage who was firing off rounds with a rifle.

He said: "The suspect that we are negotiating with has told our negotiators that the end is coming and he is going to hurt and kill more of us, meaning law enforcement, and that there are bombs all over the place in this garage and in downtown."

Local reports say there has been a loud blast at the site, but this has not been confirmed.

Chief Brown said that a woman who was in the vicinity of the man was now being questioned.

Police also said officers had intercepted a car after a person threw a camouflaged bag into the back and sped off. Two occupants were being questioned.

Chief Brown said the suspects were all believed to have been working together, using rifles to carry out attacks while the rally was taking place.

He added: "We do not have a comfort level that we have all the suspects."

He had earlier said 11 officers were shot "ambush style" by the sniper fire, killing three. Police later tweeted that a fourth officer had died. The Dallas Police Association later confirmed a fifth had died. One of those killed was a transport police officer.

The police said it appeared that two snipers had fired from "elevated positions" during the protest rally.

"We believe that these suspects were positioning themselves in a way to triangulate on these officers from two different perches... and planned to injure and kill as many law enforcement officers as they could," Chief Brown said.

The mayor of Dallas, Mike Rawlings, said it was a "heartbreaking moment for the city"

One of the march's organisers, Rev Jeff Hood, saw people scramble for cover as gunfire rang out.

"I ran away from the shots trying to get people off the streets and I was grabbing myself to see if I was shot," he told the Dallas Morning News.

Police had earlier issued a photo of one man with a rifle slung over his shoulder, saying he was a suspect. Police later tweeted that he had handed himself in.

A man identifying himself as his brother told local TV that his brother was not involved and US media later reported that the man had been released from custody.

Flights over Dallas have been restricted.

The Dallas protests were among several held across the US over the police use of lethal force against African Americans.

Philando Castile was shot dead at a traffic stop in St Paul, Minnesota , on Wednesday, while Alton Sterling was killed by police a day earlier in Baton Rouge, Louisiana.

Both incidents were captured on video, reigniting what has become a national debate.

US President Barack Obama said "all fair-minded people should be concerned" about the frequent police killings of black Americans.

Pointing to statistics showing African-American citizens are far more likely to be shot by police by whites, Mr Obama called on law enforcement to root out internal bias.

"When incidents like this occur, there's a big chunk of our fellow citizenry that feels as if it's because of the colour of their skin, they are not being treated the same,'' he said. "And that hurts."

But Mr Obama also said there was "extraordinary appreciation and respect for the vast majority of police officers who put their lives on the line to protect us every single day. They've got a dangerous job. It's a tough job."